- Posted by Jeff Vacek
- On February 18, 2016
- 3 Comments
- Return Of Investment, ROI
Do you complain?
If so, I have a huge and profound piece of advice for you.
Wait for it…
Wait for it…
Ask yourself, “What’s the ROI On Complaining?”
Hard to measure, but I would assume it would be in the negative.
You don’t EARN anything from complaining.
You don’t WIN anything by complaining.
You don’t SHIFT or TANSFORM anything by complaining.
By complaining, you have nothing to gain and a TON to lose.
So, stop… Please… Pretty please with a cherry on top… Stop complaining.
Think about it… Do you like to hear other people complain?
I doubt it.
(If you do like to hear people complain, I’ve got a 12 step program for you 😉
If you don’t like to hear other people complain then why would you complain?
Okay, its starting to sound like I’m complaining about complaining, so I’ll get off my soap box and give you some tips on how to stop complaining.
Stop Complaining Tip #1
Record your conversations and listen back to them.
You’ll know if you’re complaining… You’ll hear it and go, “Man, was I complaining right there.” (unless of course you have a huge ego and will admit no fault or think you’re perfect… again, I’ve got another course for you 😉
The more you listen to yourself complain, the more you will listen to yourself when you speak and the more you will THINK before you speak.
Over time, your speaking will shift and you won’t complain anymore.
Stop Complaining Tip #2
Hang around people that DON’T complain on a regular basis.
Go to places where non-complainers hang out. Like business events. Hang out with the successful people at those events or wherever you can find a successful person and 9.9 times out of 10 they will NOT be complaining.
Stop Complaining Tip #3
This is the second cousin to #2 above… STOP hanging around people that complain.
Ever heard the sports or performance quote, ‘You play up to your competition?’
Well, it goes both ways, you’ll play down to your competition as well.
Why do you think good teams lose to REALLY bad teams?
In language and speaking, same thing tends to happen.
You know how it goes… You’re at a family function OR hanging out with your friends OR hanging around the water cooler at the office and someone just starts in complaining about something. What do you usually do? Pile on, right?
Stop or limit how much you hang around people that complain and you’ll stop complaining too.
Look, you’re only human… You can get caught up by it… The real game is to catch yourself and stop complaining.
If you implement those tips over the next 30-45 days, I know you’ll see a HUGE difference in your complaining and you might even completely stop.
Now, let me be clear on something…
Giving constructive criticism, advice or expressing a concern is NOT complaining.
It’s all in how you speak and your choice of words… (See #1 in the tips above).
You tell me… is this complaining:
- “You know, I’m really sick and tired of Johnny coming home with failing grades on his report card.”
Or is this complaining…
- “I’m really concerned about the fact that Johnny came home with failing grades again. We should really sit down with him and his teachers and figure out what we can do to improve his grades.”
If you chose A… winner, winner, chicken dinner!
Yep, that’s complaining.
But wait, how is B, NOT complaining. It’s the same thing?
No it’s not.
Look at the choice of words.
Speak both A and B out loud. Be mindful of tone as well.
Now what do you think?
It may not be an easy road, but with consistent self-awareness you can STOP complaining.
And here’s the REAL funny result that will come from that.
Other people will change!
“I thought I was the one that stopped complaining?”
Yep, remember how you responded at the water cooler when your friends, co-workers or whoever was complaining?
You piled on and complained as well didn’t you? Or you went home to your spouse later and complained to him or her, right?
So, if you STOP complaining and completely change the way you speak and your choice of words, what do you think the people around you will do?
In most cases, they will change the way they speak and their choice of words too.
And if you have kids, even better.
You don’t want your kids to grow up around a complainer or worse turn into a complainer themselves do you?
If that’s not motivation for you, then I don’t know what is.
The ROI on complaining is negative…
The ROI on NOT complaining is PRICELESS.